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Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Is Your Man On "The Rag"?

I have this joke I tell all my male friends, when they start complaining about the women in their lives, and PMS, “Between Pre Menstrual Syndrome, During Menstrual Syndrome, and Post Menstrual Syndrome, we women have about five good minutes a month. And, damn it, we are usually asleep.” My male friends all love it. They always laugh, as they shake their heads in agreement.

I was with a friend the other day, and her guy was being uncharacteristically pissy. She referred to him as having PMS. It started me recalling a time in my life where my significant other and I were having a lot of relationship problems. I was talking with one of my friends, seeking consolation, during one particularly hard time, and made a joke about the moon phase. She told me it was funny that I would say that, because she had noticed a couple of months earlier that when he and I would have problems, it always fell during the same time she was on her period. At the time I, of course, was the one who was being blamed for all of the problems we were having, but the thing was, it wasn’t correlating with mine, so I originally dismissed the idea.

Later, I started to take note, and she was right. It got so I could time his bizarre behavior, and knew that it was going to crop up without fail, sometime during certain dates of the month. That’s when I started doing some research, and learned about Andropause. He fell in the right age group, and the symptoms fit him to a “T”, but it still didn’t explain why they were happening monthly, like clock work. So back to the drawing board I ventured.

I have written several articles on pheromones, and have more forthcoming, so I couldn’t help but wonder if a woman’s copulin production and fluctuation played some sort of role, in a man’s monthly mood swings. After all, it has been proven that a man’s testosterone level will increase up to 150% after being exposed to a woman’s copulins. Also, a man’s testosterone levels are highest in the morning and lowest at bedtime, a fact all women should take note to. But the copulin theory was just my own ponderings.

So, along my journey, I found that there were some studies conducted by a group of psychologist from the University of Derby, headed by Dr. Aimee Aubeeluck. They had a group of 100 men and women fill out questionnaires, which asked questions revolving around the symptoms that usually are recognized as being associated with the menstrual cycle.

Apparently, the men were experiencing cyclic mood swings, each month that correlated with the same symptoms that women experience during her cycle, aside from the bloating. She stated, “…there has been previous research that suggests we all have natural internal biorhythms, and the male symptoms could somehow be caused by that,” and “Because men don’t have periods, they simply dismissed those cyclical symptoms as being caused by other outside factors.” Dr. Aubeeluck believes that there may be some yet undetermined cause that explains why both sexes are experiencing the same symptoms, and intends to do more research on this, but I did not find any further findings from her group.

Hmm, biorhythms? I had always thought that was associated with Astrology somehow, but needed more of my attention. I found out that biorhythms were first examined and studied by two separate psychologists during the same time period unbeknownst to each other, in the early 1900’s. Dr. Hermann Swoboda, Psychologist and Dr. Wilhelm Fliess, M.D., both started observing cyclical behavior amongst their patients, and decided to take a closer look. They both came up with a 23-day and 28-day cycle, which appeared to be affecting both men and women. It wasn’t just affecting moods, but also being susceptible to contagious diseases that they had been exposed to, and other factors. Dr. Fliess came to the conclusion that there is a correlation between these rhythms and evolution, the creation of organisms, including life itself.

He also, believed that all of us have inherited both male and female characteristics, which is commonly believed today. Our reproductive organs do have a correlation between each other...the male’s testes and the women’s ovaries; the female clitoris and the male penis.

Alfred Teltseher, a teacher and doctor of engineering also noticed a pattern in his students. He discovered that their was a thirty-three day cycle between when students were able to easily grasp a new concept, and when their capacity to think quickly and clearly was diminished, which was determined by his associates as possibly being affected by the thyroid gland, or some other rhythmic secretions of glands that affect the brain cells.

Donald A. Laird, director of the psychological laboratory at Colgate University, stated, “To most people moods are an eternal puzzle, no one knows whence they come or where they go. Science has recently discovered moods are by no means a matters of chance. They are not, as we have long supposed, simply reactions to the success or failure of our plans. On the Contrary, they grow within us as a direct result of the rise and fall of our emotional energy. It has been proved that our bodies and minds produce, store up and spend our emotional energy in regular cycles.”
He made this statement after reading about the discoveries of Dr. Rexford Hersey at the University of Pennsylvania, who was assisted by Dr. Michael John Bennett. They conducted a study of workers in railroad shops, and found a 33 to 35 day cycle in their emotional changes.

Jed Diamond Ph.D., a psychotherapist, writes about Irritable Male Syndrome, which he describes as being a state of hypersensitivity, anxiety, frustration, and anger by men, which is associated with biochemical changes, hormonal fluctuations, and loss of male identity. Men suffering from this affliction have been reported as making statements like:
• Why don’t you ever…?
• You know I don’t like that. Why do you keep doing it?
• You never…?
• Etc., and only gets worse as Irritable Male Syndrome progresses.

Hmm, sounds eerily familiar.

So step on over ladies, your man may start using this evidence as an excuse for bad behavior. After all, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander…or so it is said.

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2 Love note(s):

Shadow said...

i knew it!!!!!

Shinade said...

That's a good one and oh so true!!:-)

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