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Your Soul-Mate Will Honor Your Core Values

jump-for-joyIf you are going to find your soulmate, there are some things you have to do. First and foremost, you have to learn about yourself, and you are going to have to do some sweeping, and clean out the baggage in your life, that surrounds and motivates your ego. You have to love the person that you are, but in order to do that you have meet yourself, before you are going to meet and keep the man or woman of your dreams.

If you are ready to be through with having your heart broken time and time again, one of the places you can start is to create your boundaries, and know what your are looking for in a man or woman, and I don’t mean, tall, dark and handsome. But I believe that before you can set up your boundaries (deal breakers), you must first learn what your core values are.


Most of the time, if you were to ask someone what their values are, they have no idea, because so many people never take the time to look within to discover what they are. Many our values have been picked up throughout our lifetimes, and were influenced by our parents, peers, religious beliefs, teachers, etc.


But when you take the time to discover what your values are, and live by those values, integrating them into your purpose, use them when you make decisions, your confidence and self-esteem begins to rise, because you are congruent with yourself, and when you go against your core values, your body will tell you, in some way, by the sick feeling in your gut, a tension here, guilt there.

It is really quite simple although challenging to discover your core values. Just find a quiet place by yourself, some paper, and just start writing down qualities that are the most important to you, the most passionate about. Below is a list of things to get you started. Just go through and pick out 20 values that are important to you, or add something that you don’t find, these are values that will always be important to you, then narrow it down to ten, and finally down to five. These final five are your core values. What are your five core values?

Abundance
Acceptance
Accuracy
Accountability
Accomplishment
Achievement
Adventure
Agility
Awareness
Balance
Beauty
Boldness
Bravery
Calm
Caring
Challenge
Change
Cleanliness
Collaboration
Comfort
Commitment
Communication
Community
Compassion
Competence
Competition
Confidence
Content over fluff
Continuous Improvement
Convincing
Cooperation
Courage
Creativity
Decisiveness
Determination
Discipline
Discovery
Diversity
Education
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Equality
Timeliness
Tolerance
Tradition
Truth
Empathy
Excellence
Fairness
Faith
Family
Flexibility
Freedom
Friendship
Fun
Generosity
Going the Extra Mile
Goodness
Gratitude
Happiness
Hard Work
Health
Honor
Humility
Independence
Influence
Inner Peace
Innovation
Integrity
Intelligence
Investing
Joy
Justice
Kindness
Knowledge
Learning
Leadership
Loyalty
Love
Meaning
Merit
Mindfulness
Modesty
Money
Non-violence
Openness
Opportunity
Optimism
Order
Tranquility
Trust
Unity
Organization
Outcome Orientation
Outstanding Service
Passion
Peace
Persistence
Personal Growth
Pleasure
Poise
Positive Attitude
Power
Practicality
Preservation
Privacy
Progress
Prosperity
Punctuality
Quality
Quiet
Rationality
Recognition
Reliability
Religion
Resourcefulness
Respect
Responsibility
Risk-Taking
Romance
Safety
Security
Selflessness
Seriousness
Service
Simplicity
Sincerity
Skill
Speed
Spirit
Stability
Strength
Style
Systemization
Teamwork
Variety
Well-Being
Wisdom
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3 Love note(s):

Shadow said...

that's a long list.... this may take some time.

Loving Annie said...

Accountability
Awareness
Kindness
Truth
Passion

I'm ready - so where the heck is he ???

Alphadominance said...

Good material here, I too advocate unrelenting personal development on my site for men, http://alphadominance.com/
I don't buy the concept of soul mates though. It's far too limiting a concept. We all have many potential matches on an earth of 6.5 billion inhabitants. It's just a matter of finding a good match.

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