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Shh! Are You Listening...Can You Hear It?

minds-eyeSo many of us go through our lives, like busy bees pointing our fingers at the circumstances and everyone else, for anything and everything that does not go right in our lives. Never stopping to realize or care, that when you point a finger outward, that there are three pointing back at you.

I am a firm believer that, everyone and everything that we encounter in our lives, even including the ones that are within our peripheral vision; the grocery store check out person, toll booth operator, right down to our friends, lovers, children and parents, is there to teach us something. To even take this a step further out on the edge of the gang plank; they were brought into our lives, as we are theirs, by our soul, psyche, higher power, etc, to teach us about ourselves; to bring us closer to emotional freedom, and to pure love, which is our souls, sole purpose.

I also am a firm believer that everyone that comes into our lives, is a mirror reflection of ourselves. What we like about someone else, is a reflection of what we like about ourselves, and on the same token, what we dislike in another person, is a reflection of some part of ourselves, that we are unhappy with. It does not matter how obnoxious, angry, disagreeable, narcissistic, abusive, or whatever, that they may be.

Or those things we dislike about another, is bringing out an unresolved issue within us. You know, all those past hurts and injustices that we have buried deep down inside, hoping to forget about, but never truly released. The ones that we stop to the local bar to drowned in alcohol, or run to our trusted Doctor to prescribe us a few bottles of pills, to get past. So no blaming, now. Scary thought, isn’t it?

Now, if we are willing to take that knowledge, and take a good look within ourselves, instead of flailing our finger outward, this person now becomes a great asset to us, and supplies us with the perfect opportunity to delve into those deep, dark crevices, of our soul. Now they can be looked upon as a gift, rather than a curse. They become a tool that we can use to resolve unresolved issues, so that it doesn’t keep creeping back into our lives, to haunt us over and over again.

Now, this also holds true for the person that you are attracted to. If you can take the time to stop and see beyond the slot machine that has just hit the jackpot within you; you know, the infatuation, lust, and confusion of emotional glee; you can learn again, that there is an unresolved issue within you, that they have just ignited. This is not to say that we should not fall in love with that person, or that they are wrong for us in any way. Only that they are there to teach us something about ourselves, and love.

Every time a person, or a circumstance in our lives, causes a reaction within us, it is our soul, our intuition, our higher power, subconscious; (which ever term you choose to use), trying to desperately tell us an important message, and is attempting to get you to stop and listen to. This does not always mean that it is a bad thing, just something that is incomplete and unresolved, and this is your souls way of presenting it to you, so that it can be addressed, and bring you closer to yourself, and emotional freedom. We are meant to learn about ourselves through others, and the circumstances that are presented to us throughout our lives.

The moral of the story, just in case I lost anyone off that gang plank, is…anytime that you feel a reaction in your mind, or your body, stop and listen to it. Stop and feel what you are feeling, where you feel it. Observe it closely. It is there because that inner, wiser, all knowing part of yourself, is trying to scream a message at you. Take just a moment and discover what it is exactly that was said or done, that just caught your body, heart, mind and souls attention.

Shhh! Listen!

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Hi searchiangwithin,

I like what you have to say! Sounds like we have some things in common. I imagine many who come by can relate to your articles. Blessxxxxxxxx

searchingwithin said...

Thank you Lea, I hope you continue to keep stopping back by. The truth is, you never know what I might say.

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