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Midlife Crisis, What's Menopause Got To Do With It?

blond bombshellWhat do cavemen, menopause and the mid-life crisis have in common? We are always told that when a man hits around the age of 50 that many of them will begin to start questioning themselves. Where they have been, what they have accomplished, how much they have aged and their midriff has spread, where they are heading, and when the anxiety and depression kicks in, you have a full fledged mid-life crisis on your hands. Then for the less moralistic and dignified, in a desperate attempt at recapturing their youth, and to prove it to themselves that they still have it, they go out and buy a shiny new red vet, change their style, and get themselves a sexy young blond with blue eyes, and big boobs.

From the standpoint of evolutionary psychology, from the beginning of mankind, and all through the eons, one of the main purposes of every creature and plant is to procreate to keep its bloodline going, and highly influenced by the survival of the fittest.
How men and women differ in their sexual and long-term mate choices, is largely influenced by the fact that men can produce a child with only a few moments of pleasure, however, women have a much larger emotional, physical, and time wise investment, should they become pregnant. Not only that, women know without a shadow of a doubt, that they are the mother to their children, whereas, men cannot be so sure.

While it is true that both men and women want a mate who is kind, compassionate, intelligent, healthy, and the most indispensable quality of all, mutual love; according to evolutionary psychology, therein, pretty much, lays the only conscious choices we make when choosing a mate. Numerous studies have shown that we may live in a modern society where we believe that we are in complete control, and consciously making our own choices; our caveman instincts are very much alive and well today, controlling and influencing our choices in a procreation partner, and long term mate.

While it is important for a man to spread his seed in a healthy gene-pool, it is also, a part of his biological nature to spread his seed as far and wide as he can, because he isn’t as affected by the physical, and time investment involved. Besides, if he spreads that seed far and wide enough, his chances of having children with a strong gene-pool are far greater. But he is still looking for youth and more importantly, fertility, as a primary means of determining where he chooses to fertilize. However, when it comes down to him investing his long-term livelihood, social status, and emotional investments, he is going to look for the woman that displays the healthiest genes that is economically available to him, and will be faithful to him.

Women, on the other hand, are also looking for a procreation mate that displays the most beautiful peacock feathers, however, due to the time investment, when she is seeking a long term mate, she is looking for one that has the highest social status, financial means, and commitment value, which is economically available to her, to help her bring up her offspring. This is one of the reasons why women are attracted to older men. They are more capable of supplying them and their children, stability and financial resources; whereas, on the other hand, men are attracted to young and fertile women, to rear their offspring.
Although other factors can come into play, just the same as men, according to evolutionary psychological studies, women are more likely to cheat on their long-term mates during ovulation. The reasoning behind this is, while she has chosen a stable mate to help her raise her young, she is in pursuit of the strongest genes to procreate them.

Yes, the man may be questioning his lifelong accomplishments, where he has been, and where he is heading when he hits midlife, however, from an evolutional psychology perspective, one of the reasons he may go in hunt of that blonde bombshell and purchase a red vet, is because the wife has hit menopause, therefore ending her reproductive career. As a result, subconsciously, the caveman within him is looking for the youth and fertility that is displayed by big boobs, voluptuous hips, and sparkling youthful blue eyes, in order to continue producing his young, and knows that the shiny red vet displays his status.

This theory being true means that a fifty year old man that is married to a young vibrate, and fertile twenty-five year old would not go through a mid-life crisis. Although, a fifty year old man married to a fifty year old woman would, as well as, the twenty-five year old man, who is married to a fifty year old woman. This means that it’s not his age that plays a part in the equation, but rather, hers.

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